Do You Need the Label Boy/Girlfriend To Be Committed To Someone?

•  "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" says the person you've been seeing for several weeks or months. Perhaps you jumped the physical gun because you felt strongly for this person. Maybe not...but chances are...Yes you did!

  In the age of "hooking up" and "one night stands", labels mean a lot to people who claim not to want one. If you're seeing or getting busy with someone, don't you deserve at lease common courtesy from someone you're "seeing" even if s/he isn't your full time fling?

  The  "C" word, commitment, has almost morphed into a dirty stigma for my generation. Everyone runs around insisting that they don't' want a relationship right now. Ironically, these are the same wo/men who love to snuggle, beg you to cook dinner, and will even accompany you on an evening stroll. It may look like Romance...but it's only Bad Romance...

  During my deluded dating days, I was rejected more time by the "I don't want a girlfriend" line than I care to comment on. My response is: "If you don't want a girlfriend, why did I meet your mom, your friends, and why do you spend significant amounts of time with me?" To answer my own question, degenerates of my age range have a warped selfishness unprecedented by our forefathers.

  Basically, wo/men now feel an overwhelming sense of entitlement and lack of responsibility simultaneously. These people think that they have a right to your body and play on your emotions while you're involved. Yet, when the slightest hint of accountability comes into play, they wash their hands clean of the situation. "I don't have to answer that because you're not my girlfriend!"

  If you're in the above situation, get out immediately. You're driving down a one way street with no stop signs. You'll crash on your own account and s/he will not be the Jaws of Life to get you out of the car.

  If you're getting involved in someone's life and vice versa, you're beginning a commitment to that person. Whether you like it or not, that is what it is. If you don't want a relationship, don't play the part. Trix are for kids.
  

  People who play these childhood games wouldn't respect the boy/girlfriend label even if there was one. You're not missing out on these individuals at all. If you've spent time snuggling, kissing and "getting familiar", you're relating and in a relationship with that person. It's plain and simple. You're the only one that's complicating things.

  This arrangement is similar to those couples who decide to cohabitate before getting married. They'll share finances, sleep in the same bed and be all in each other's family lives but won't say "I do". Then, one partner decides s/he's through with the relationship and walks away easily. To themselves they mutter: "Well that wasn't my husband or wife."

  Avoid the above scenario. You deserve the label and all. But even if the label isn't there, the time, intimacy and emotions do count for something. Love responsibly. Know the implications of becoming involved with someone's heart and mind and step up, Wo/Man Up! Juvenility is so not hot..

  Have you ever been physically, emotionally and mentally involved someone but weren't officially in a relationship? Were you the perp or victim? Explain why.

• Why Men Drive Women Crazy...or at least This Woman

  
  
  
  
  I love my boyfriend. I have to start this post by saying that because I don't want it to seem like I don't as I continue this post. It's just that sometimes the boy acts like a complete idiot! I can tell him something and five minutes later he's totally forgotten everything I've said. It gets really annoying after awhile, let me tell you. That and he doesn't use logic. Or if he does, its totally backward! For example, a few days ago he had an errand to run that he really should have done the day before but he was too lazy to get up and do it. So Tuesday, he realizes that this errand must now be done before a certain time. When I talked to him he said he had to run the errand still and so I thought he was going to do it at that time. Especially because we were supposed to be meeting for our dinner breaks from work at a certain time which he assured me we would.
  
  When I text him about dinner, its about twenty minutes before we usually have dinner. He tells me that he is just leaving to run the errand at that time. I knew that it would take him wayyyyy more than twenty minutes to get everything done that he needed to do. Granted, I was already in a bad mood from the heat but his stupid action DEFINITELY did not improve my mood. It probably took him about an hour to accomplish this task at which point I was furious! I was hot, cranky and felt like I was going to pass out because I was so overheated and nauseous. When he finally checked back in with me, I flipped out. Mainly because he had been so stupid and didn't think about how long it was going to take him to finish what he needed to finish. But then because he didn't have the courtesy to take my feelings into consideration when making his decision. I mean, he doesn't have to base all of his actions around me but hello! If we had plans to get together the least he could have done was apologize for taking too long.
  
  Men are so infuriating when it comes to things like plans and using common sense. But like I said before, it's not that I don't love my boyfriend. Its just that I wish he would use his brain! This is why God gave us brains right? So why is it so hard for men to use them?
  
  So here's my question to all of you datingish readers...for the men, why is it so complicated for you guys to use common sense sometimes? And ladies, what do men do that really bug you?